http://www.sandiegocaraccidentlawyerblog.com/2009/04/douglas_tarry_killed_in_san_di.html
I had jammed with Doug since I was in high school. He was a shred machine and a die hard Metallica fan, who had almost become a recording engineer. I played my first show with him 10 years ago, he was truly a nice guy. I hadnt seem him around much the last 3 or 4 years, but we still saw each other around town every so often.
Im a Paramedic instructor, and one of my students was on this call. Doug did not suffer I hear. This is the second friend Ive lost in a motor vehicle accident this year.
I am sorry to hear of your loss!
I have lost a few friends now over the years also, so I understand your pain.
The pain never goes, you just become like numb, to it i guess....
I lost one friend when we were both 18, I hadn't seen him in a while.
But 1 week before his motorcycle accident that killed him, I happened by chance to see him as we both were at a stop sign. We both waved hi, and went our ways.
That was it! I often think of him still, as he was 1 of my close friends.
LG
Im sorry to hear that :(
Hope you can make it through without having a depression.
So sorry to hear that, a very sad loss. Treasure your memories of him, and make some music inspired by him.
Cheers,
Nigel
Thats a good idea Nigel. Excellent write a song in memory of him that would be awesome and so full of meaning
I'm very sorry to hear that, Davo.
How awful, my condolences Davo.
Davo, truly sorry to hear of your loss. I know the feeling for sure. Turn to music and work through it. Cheers.
Thanks for the replies guys. I have thought about writing a song about him. I just dont know if I can capture all of my feelings in the lyrics. I still struggle with those.
Perhaps an instrumental is in order.
With all the massive traffic here lately combined with a crazy week I missed this one.
I'm really sorry for your loss Davo. Don't hide your feelings in a time like this. Hope you have people to talk to, and yes music can be an outlet of those feelings too.
Take care.
G.
Davo,
I'm very sorry to hear about this.
Don't forget that grief/mourning is a developmental thing, i.e. it progresses over time. But, it is still not linear, i.e., you might find yourself thinking about your friend more in a year's time than you do right now. I would say just go with it. And if you, or anyone else is having problems, you might want to try to find someone professional to help you (but I'm a psychotherapist, so I'm biased in suggesting that).
I think that the idea of celebrating your friend in a song/instrumental, as you suggested, is a very loving gesture, but if it doesn't feel right, don't feel compelled to do it.
All the best,
Hey man~ I too know what it's like to lose close friends...I just got back from a cemetary where 2 of my friends are buried...both of them took their own lives before they turned 21...I had supper with the one's parents....This year would have been our 10 year high school reunion...His mom shed some tears when she heard that...I also lost a friend a few years ago to a car accident....
You're not alone...We are survivors and our friends will missed~ I'm sorry man.
P.s. I've been trying to write a song about my friend for 8 years~ no luck so far....But when the time is right....It will be magical.
Thanks for the replies guys. We had a "Dougs Friends" BBQ last weekend, watched some old videos and listened to some of our old recordings. Doug would have had a good time there im sure. Kody my 10 year reunion is this fall, I dont think Im gonna go.
I wrote "Goodbye for now" for my Pa!
It helped me cope.......
Doesn't have to be about lyrics!
The music you create speaks for you.............
And it will be an ode to that person that you wont see for a while!
Peace on you and your friend bro.....
Tharek and Kai
P'S
Your friend wouldn't want you to stop in your tracks at his passing.......
No one would want that....!
Carry on with life and remember them.......
If you do this, they ain't really gone!